Do you sometimes feel like your whole life revolves around trying to figure out what went wrong to cause your man to break up with you? Or, if you’re still together, do you spend hours wondering “what’s going on” with him, or why he doesn’t call and see you as much?
If this sounds painfully familiar, there’s a reason for it: most of what we as women have been taught all our lives about keeping a great man (and what causes us to lose him) is WRONG.
That’s why I created the “Get Him Back” Boot Camp infographic below. It shows you step-by-step exactly how to rebuild your emotional strength to inspire lasting devotion in your man. Click to view it full size and start working towards bringing him back today.
But before your training begins, let me tell you exactly WHY these exercises really work to help him realize you are the woman he can’t live without (and will do anything to get back!)
Most women have no clue about a “secret wish” that every quality man carries deep inside himself: the wish to find just one rare, irresistibly powerful quality in a forever partner… the quality of highly valuing and honoring YOURSELF.
How do you create this quality in yourself? You do it by learning how to put yourself first.
We’ve been taught our entire lives that focusing on a man’s needs is the best way to “win” his affection and attention. But, even though it goes against everything we learn as women, the path to rekindling a man’s passion and commitment is stopping all the wondering, analyzing, and worrying about why HE acts the way he does and beginning to explore and fully experience your own life in the most powerful ways possible… up to and including beginning to go on casual dates with other men!
Of course, it may seem illogical - even scary - to consider granting your man’s “secret wish” by experiencing other men. But the truth is, it’s one of the most powerful things you can do to become the self-honoring woman your man will do anything to get back. Learn more about a powerful tool called “Circular Dating” on Day 6 of “Get Him Back” Boot Camp and in my free relationship newsletters.
Once your man realizes that you value your own worth, you’ll drive him crazy with desire by becoming a prize that requires fighting for. Do it, and he’ll never let you go again.
When your man leaves you or starts to pull away, you need to accept that you’ve probably done something to cause it. I know this is painful to admit, but when it comes to getting your man back, changing YOUR behavior patterns is the fastest way to clear the path to reconnecting with him.
Identify and break the habits that are blocking his view of your self-esteem and strength - and watch him start to move back to you! This means learning how to “lean back," giving your man time and space to miss you instead of constantly checking-in, calling, texting, and showing up at his door. It also means learning how to NOT have your life revolve around him anymore.
No more spending all day thinking about him. No more scheduling your day around his plans. No more watching what you say and don’t say. No more “overfunctioning” to make him happy, or accepting things he does that make you unhappy. Check out Day 2 of “Get Him Back” Bootcamp for tips on how to stop “overfunctioning” and what to do instead.
Above all, understand that your man will only be inspired to move towards you again once you recognize that you need to begin changing some things about yourself.
As women, we tend to lose control of (or hide) our emotions because of fear and insecurities about how he will react when we express ourselves. But the shocking truth is, men are powerfully, helplessly ATTRACTED to our emotional natures above all else.
In reality, it’s all the “drama” of how we sometimes express emotions that men run away from. So don’t be afraid to show your feelings, but be sure to express them in a way that’s non-judging and non-critical so your man doesn’t feel blamed or cornered. Instead, learn how to share and embrace them in the right way.
Do this often, and your man will sense at a deep, unconscious level that he wants and needs your company, your touch, your affection. In fact, he’ll feel compelled to open his heart and take action and get it You don’t even need a man around to practice this - start expressing your feelings the right way with everyone you meet. Learn more on Day 3 of “Get Him Back” Boot Camp. Plus, I go much more in-depth on how your feminine emotions are magnetically attractive to a man (when expressed the right way) in my relationship advice newsletters. You can sign up here for free.
Think back to the “you” who first met and started dating your man. Was she constantly obsessing about him and calling him? Did she arrange her life around what he was doing? Did she sacrifice her own feelings of strength and self-worth to please him?
Of course not. Chances are, when you first met him, you were focused on strengthening and building up yourself instead - and it made you EXTREMELY attractive to him. That’s why I want you to take this opportunity to start working on YOURSELF and become more like the woman who attracted him in the first place.
In the meantime, know that the process of becoming your better, stronger self once again (also known as the woman your man can’t live without) may not come easily, especially if you’re accustomed to chasing, worrying, and sharing your feelings with your man in all the wrong ways.
But practice really does make perfect. So make a choice to take the first step and get on the path to getting your man back!